I'm sure we all know was infidelity is. Here's Wikipedia's definition. "Infidelity is a violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of an intimate relationship, which constitutes a significant to extreme breach, or outright default, on the implicit good faith contract of a relationship, or a betrayal of core shared values with which the integrity and nature of the relationship is defined. In common use, it describes an act of unfaithfulness to one’s husband, wife, or lover, whether sexual or non-sexual in nature."
Before I go any further please let me state that infidelity WAS NOT a factor in the break down in my marriage. My former husband and I had problems.... but cheating on one another was not one of them. I wish I could say the same about my parents marriage. Unfortunately, cheating was a factor in their divorce. Needless to say, I have some feelings about the subject.In the past several months I have watched several families fall apart due to infidelity. I'm just going to go ahead and say it... and I really don't care if anyone is offended or not. SHAME ON YOU! What were/are you thinking? And please, don't try giving me excuses as to why you cheat. I won't accept them... not now, not ever! Cheating is NEVER ok! It is the ultimate form of narcissism. Period. Frankly I don't care what may be going wrong in a persons marriage.... that is never a reason to cheat on your spouse. There are other ways to deal with a failing marriage. Adding insult to injury isn't going to fix anything.
Here's what I'm seeing happen. Society is breaking down further and further. Family values are being kicked to the curb. What was sacred a couple decades ago is no longer. Instant gratification rules supreme. Who ends up suffering in the end? Who has to live with the consequences of a SELFISH parents actions? You guessed it. The children. Those who are most vulnerable and in need of a stable home in which to thrive and grow. How can they do that when a parent has BETRAYED the very institution of marriage? Who do they turn to for stability and trust?
If this post hits a nerve, good. If it ticks you off, too bad. Stop thinking about your own self centered needs and think about the needs of the spouse and children you vowed to love, cherish and honor. The universe doesn't revolve around you. People are watching you and seeking guidance, security, trust, respect, and love from you. Your violation of all these things are hurting people. Maybe it's time to think about these realities before you jump into the sack with someone other than your spouse the next time. I hope it haunts you if you're in the act!
